Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.A dating relationship is usually based only on what the dating couple presently knows about each other.In contrast, a Biblical courtship is based on what God knows about each partner and on His plans for their futures.If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.(See Proverbs , .)The potential for a young person's heart to be broken, and for there to be great pain is there in a courtship just as it is in dating.There is a godly way to date without placing on the relationship all of the rules, regulations, and strains of courtship.
A couple participating in courtship seeks the accountability of their parents or other mentors.(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.)Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).