A dating relationship is usually based only on what the dating couple presently knows about each other.
In contrast, a Biblical courtship is based on what God knows about each partner and on His plans for their futures.
(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.)Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.
While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.
In a dating relationship, self-gratification is normally the basis of the relationship.
Instead of focusing on God’s pleasure, the couple is often looking for personal pleasure.
A courting couple can evade numerous temptations by the choice to be held accountable to God-given authorities.
The dangers of defrauding can be avoided more successfully, and an honest, open friendship can be nurtured and protected. Since one of the most important decisions we will make is the decision of marriage, we should make every effort to know and do God’s will in this area.
On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.
Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).
When a person makes a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the foundation of all decisions—as he or she seeks God’s kingdom—God will provide all that is needed, including the marriage partner prepared by God just for that person.
(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.
It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.
As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.