Walking down the aisle, smiling big, she winked as she passed me. Back then we talked about men, marriage, romance, and sex. I'll never forget how her mouth flew open when I approached our pastor's wife with a fairly provocative question about sex. She was stepping into a new season of life—a husband, a new home, new responsibilities … Many parents set rules for their Christian teens about dating.While setting rules is a good idea, it is important for parents to think through the rules that they do set. "We hold hands and look at each other a lot," Diane once confessed. ) To this day I shake my head every time I think of it. My mind drifts to the time when a man like Bill was nothing more than a whisper of hope hidden in Diane's heart. She covered her ears and stomped away before the pastor's wife could answer. Diane says I think about sex too much and must learn to master my bodily urges.
It also helps teens identify early when a situation is becoming dangerous.
Tell your teen that you will talk about dating when he or she is ____ years old.
Then you can sit down and have a conversation to see if your teen is ready.
Cons: Not all teens mature at the same rate, so even though your teen comes to that age, he or she may still not be able to handle it.
The Solution: Try using that age as a "review" age.
Parents need to know why they are setting the rules, and they also need to discuss the rules openly with their children.