This guy has an unrealistic and outdated idea of what it means to be a man.He thinks that unless everything is done on his terms, he’ll be perceived as weak-willed. Maybe it’s an old gender role, but men are expected to be reasonably handy.A man deals with shit, even if it means getting punched in the face by some douche at the bar or getting screamed at by your girlfriend.This is another sign of insecurity, which isn’t the most masculine of qualities.If he can’t send you a simple text just to let you know he’s not dead or in jail, odds are he’s fucking with your head.When you ask a guy where he wants to go for dinner and he says something like, “I don’t care,” or “Wherever you want,” it’s usually true.
Even though he’s the life of the party when he’s around his buddies, he clams up at work functions or “adult” dinner parties. Whether he’s skipping the foreplay or racing to the finish line, he hasn’t learned that relationship sex is about teamwork.I’m not saying he has to have his whole career planned out, but if he blows off work when he doesn’t feel like going, quits or gets fired because he’s too lazy or the job is too boring, this guy still doesn’t know life isn’t always about doing whatever he wants to do all the time. A man doesn’t worry about who’s at fault — it doesn’t matter.If he doesn’t have your back when you get into a confrontation (even if he doesn’t agree with you), he either doesn’t give a shit about you or he’s a coward. There’s nothing productive about assigning or arguing about blame. It’s been said many times that arguing in relationships is a good thing — it proves you’re both invested.And while women are sometimes attracted to bad boys, they’re almost never attracted to bad men.Running away from or avoiding problems is one of the most childish things a guy can do.But if he’s not bringing you chicken soup when you’re sick or giving you rides when your car’s in the shop, this is not a guy you can depend on. A man doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him as long as he believes in what he’s doing. No one wants to be a full-on conformist, but we are living in a society, here.