Did you cast a wide enough net, or were you limiting your search to handsome 33-year-old MDs with Doberman Pinschers? Maybe you aren’t presenting yourself in the best light or making it easy for men to find you (for example, not posting a picture of yourself is a sure way to limit the amount of attention you attract online).Pinpointing exactly why your online dating experiment “didn’t go well” will go a long, long way in figuring out why you haven’t had any luck in relationships in general. Finally, if you actually have a guy in your real life whom you’re into, for the love of God, ask him out already!In short, there are no red flags in the present — only in the past.It’s great but I can’t help fearing it will somehow blow up in my face.And his apparent serial monogamy seems to be part of your concern, as if it says something about his ability to commit that he’s been able to find women he likes enough to date for multiple years but can’t “pull the trigger,” so to speak.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at I saw an article the other day about “what his romantic past says about him,” and it echoed some of the concerns I have about the history of the guy I’ve been seeing for a couple of months (let’s call him “Mark”).
Does that mean you’re unable to have a long-lasting relationship that could potentially lead to marriage?
And if you had a relationship that has led to marriage, you’re clearly no longer married, so does that mean you lack the ability to make a marriage succeed?
dysmorphic disorder is, as I define it, a psychological disorder in which the affected person is excessively concerned about and preoccupied by a perceived defect in his or her ability to attract a mate and sustain a relationship. Surely, you have a dear friend who has been privy to your relationship woes. Let me be clear: you are not asking your friend why she thinks men aren’t attracted to you; you’re asking her why she thinks you haven’t had luck in your search for a date. While you have the help and support of a good friend, I’d suggest you fire up on the ol’ online profile again.
The idea of RDD is that the affected person thinks she is defected when it comes to relationships (and should join a convent), while people who know her can’t understand where in the world these thoughts come from. Well, to start with, I’d suggest therapy to get to the root of where these negative thoughts stem from. You say your initial foray into online dating “didn’t go well,” but what does that mean?
Should Mark be worried about committing to someone whose track record doesn’t include a successful commitment?