Coffee Meets Bagel takes “the hassle out of online dating” by eliminating the work of browsing profiles altogether. As it turns out, there’s not enough information to get a good enough feel for the other user to know if a date will be worthwhile. Too big and we might be deluding ourselves with skewed or inflated expectations. Being smitten with a profile is risky, but lack of content limits users’ emotional responses to snap judgments, ending the game before it’s even started. Lately, the pattern is to mimic real life, which, given the baseless nature of matching algorithms, is not a bad idea. Ok Cupid introduced Events not long ago, which is not a group date but more like, “an instant party where you're guaranteed to have high matches in the room," and recently, Crazy Blind Date app, which is "the easiest and fastest way to go on dates." Crazy Blind Date scrambles users' photos and encourages spontaneity by offering the ability to set dates when you're free, at locations you prefer. Adopting a model of behavior that was established before the ubiquity of the Internet will eventually become irrelevant.
Instead, users receive one match everyday at noon, which they can like or pass. Once your profile is complete—no doubt with the optimum blend of wit and reverie, sarcasm and sincerity—it’s time to start online dating. Usually, answering match questions so that the match algorithm can tell you what percentage match, friends, and enemies you are with other users; writing explanations to some of your match question answers so that people don’t get the wrong idea; browsing profiles (and wondering why the photo tab isn’t first); bookmarking profiles; rating profiles; sending winks; sending messages; sending instant messages; receiving messages; ignoring canned messages; writing back; updating your profile; “updating” your profile with inane changes so that it gets surfaced on other people’s pages; letting the site suggest matches for you; looking at everyone that looked at you; setting your local broadcast so that users nearby can see you; and thinking about upgrading because you’re tired of seeing ads and you’re tempted to browse anonymously. Perhaps there was a time when online dating was: browse, meet, deactivate, and live happily ever after.
Needless to say, not everyone has exacting requirements.
For the less particular or those simply seeking towards the middle of the curve, broad sites offer a varied user base, with up to millions of unique visitors per month at popular sites such as
For nascent sites, this is reason enough to forego the bloated profile along with the “indecision, ambivalence, and fear of commitment that relationshopping fosters” (Finkel et al., 2012, p.34) in favor of something short and easily scanned. If that seems like a lot of work, emerging dating sites agree.
Others are content with a few pithy tweet-like phrases.
There seems to be a quiet debate happening in the online dating industry about the profile.
For those seeking the “happily ever after” of coupledom, the question isn’t whether or not to date online, but how.
If the user believes what he or she sees in popular media, this might seem rather easy: you sign up, make a profile, and find your soul mate.
This report examines American teens’ digital romantic practices. The main findings from this research include: Overall, 35% of American teens ages 13 to 17 have ever dated, hooked up with or been otherwise romantically involved with another person, and 18% are currently in a romantic relationship.