Dating handle rejection

Doing so will remind you that you are a valued and respected member of your ‘tribe’.

Rejections are an extremely common emotional ‘injury’ and they always hurt.

There are some people who get rejected left and right and can continue living as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, not all of us are so impervious to rejection.

Did they reject you because you’re not tall enough, smart enough, attractive enough, rich enough, educated enough, or hip enough? Then you start to second guess everything you did and said.

You berate yourself for disclosing your fascination with sea urchins, for ordering noodle soup and making slurping noises, or for joking about how you got the scar on your middle finger.

All this self-punishment makes you feel utterly miserable and you wonder when you became so weak, needy, or desperate.

Specifically, make a list of qualities you have that are important in dating and relationships such as being loyal, caring, supportive, considerate, a good listener, a great cook, a good kisser, and as many others as you can think of.

Choose one of these attributes and write a brief essay (a paragraph or two) about why the quality matters to you, why a future partner would find it valuable, how you’ve expressed it in past dating or relationship scenarios, or how you would do so in the future.

So don’t skip that crucial step and do it in your head — write. One of the theories about why rejection causes such sharp emotional pain is that in our distant past, being ostracized from our tribe was pretty much a death sentence.

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