Granted, reading may not be a priority on your to-do list — but it should be.It is especially important for divorced men to read about the pain they are experiencing and learn how to eliminate it so they can move on.Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!Davis, relationship expert and author of several books including Breakthrough for a Broken Heart and Are You Ready for True Love?“Men also need to process their pain and deal with their unfinished business to prevent it from sabotaging meaningful relationships,” he says.“Men must face their fears and empty every skeleton from the closet.What you fearfully deny and run from will only follow you to resurface in future relationships,” says Paul F.
This guy will need some time to adjust to the idea of a serious relationship. Perhaps you were well-prepared for a few snide remarks or some dirty looks thrown your way. On the other hand, did his ex throw you off kilter by being a complete psycho bitch?
In this day and age, it isn’t at all unusual to find yourself dating a man who is divorced.
With people getting married younger (have you ever watched “16 and Pregnant”? This leads to plenty of good-looking, eligible men on the market who have a past. However, there’s often a stigma that comes with the word “divorce”.
At times, our culture minimizes the importance of self-discovery and self-awareness for men; these are usually deemed priorities more appropriate for women.
But times are changing, and it’s just as important for men to work through issues with thoughtful analysis and introspection.
No matter how you feel about his previous squeeze, you can’t let on.