That said, I have determined that a primarily direct model is not for me. If I open direct and eventually fail to get a number (maybe she has a boyfriend or is simply not interested in me), a common way for her to end the interaction is to say “Thank you for the compliment.” Some even will add, “You made my day.” That’s beautiful, isn’t it? In effect she is thanking you for putting her on the pedestal and valuing her pussy.
Here’s why: First, it’s important to state what direct is. Her “thank you” reminds me of two things: (a) When I used to bartend, some customers would lavish me with praise on my service as I gave them the bill.
To the credit of some direct guys, they are aware that their approach puts girls on this high, and recommend you bring things back down manually, but I think they underestimate the power of a compliment to make even the most uninterested of girls temporarily seem interested.
Indirect game does not give a girl this type of buzz that she may confuse as real attraction (a large cause of flaking).
I especially respect the work that the London day game guys are doing, but they seem to be getting a pass in having their strategies rigorously examined. This means directly praising her beauty, style, hair, or what have you.
Their system has flaws like any other so it’s worth having an open dialogue that helps men make the right decision on which style of game to invest time in. A lot of guys think they are running direct game by asking where a girl got her cool shoes from, for example, but that’s clearly indirect. Her expression of thanks indicates that you have given her something she greatly values (validation) without receiving anything in return.
Compliments make women very happy, so of course they will talk to you a bit longer in the hope you loft them even higher up on the pedestal.
I’ve wasted much more time in direct interactions than indirect.
To run direct game, you have to psych yourself up or meditate for an extended period of time just to do a single approach.
You would expect that the ensuing tip would therefore be high, but the more thanks they gave, the lower the tip was. Because they are attempting to compensate you on the bad tip they’re about to give with a “verbal tip” instead.
They expect you to feel gracious in the verbal tip instead of actual money.
I suspect direct guys know this, because if you watch some of their in-field videos, you’ll notice some surprisingly indirect openers that absolutely do not compliment a women, yet they still label their approach “direct” because they have invested themselves into saying that their style of game is the best in the world.
One problem you may have with indirect game is wasting a couple minutes of ramble before finding out that a girl simply won’t bite on your bait.
Now before direct guys start frothing over their keyboards, I must state that I don’t intend to start an indirect vs direct war.