All practical considerations aside, if a girl is in a relationship that is unhealthy, abusive or otherwise toxic, you shouldn’t shed any tears about breaking it up.You should, however, think long and hard about the implications of inserting yourself into a toxic relationship (and dating someone who would enter one).If you don’t — if there isn’t anything particularly outstanding about this person — then you already have a reason to respect her circumstances and move on.We’re not here to tell you when and when not to pursue a girl with a boyfriend, only to consider whether there’s a good reason.
Which can be a frustrating, confusing experience: There’s nothing quite like connecting with someone who turns out to be attached.
So given these risks, ask yourself this: Do you really like this girl, or do you just want to “win?
” The desire to be with someone because you can’t imagine being with anyone else is very powerful.
In these situations, you have two options: move on, or try anyway. And is it acceptable to chase a girl who already has a boyfriend? But first, we have to answer one important question. Before you go any further, you have to ask yourself why you want a girl who is already spoken for.
But making the decision between resignation and pursuit can be difficult. With over three billion women in the world (and not a few of them living within 50 miles of you), what makes this one so special? If you have a compelling answer to that question, then there might be a good reason to pursue her.
But so is the desire to be victorious, to prove that you’re better, stronger, or more attractive, to demonstrate your ability to subvert an existing relationship for your own validation.