"There's so much anonymity behind a computer, and while that's a great tool for me when I want to limit my interactions with people, it seems counterintuitive towards starting an intimate relationship." Well, yes. "My current girlfriend and I are both authors so we ended up following each other on Twitter, then graduated to emails, then to phone calls, then to meeting in person," says Don, another introvert.
"It's what I'm most comfortable with." There's a lot to be said for the combination of introverts and the Internet for making love connections.
I know myself, and as much as I wanted those things to be my top priority, I knew they weren't.
In my profile, I wrote just that: I wished I could say my faith and relationship with God were tops in my life, but in reality the overwhelming thing is my love for cars and racing. I am very sceptic and negative about online dating, it is somehow false.
And be sure to feature some of your charming idiosyncrasies in your profile—your unusual hobbies and particular passions. Rebecca, an introvert who met her introverted husband online, was drawn again and again to his profile photo of himself hugging a horse.
An animal lover herself, she recognized a kindred spirit.
And that's how you want to approach it: As an adventure.
You might have to meet a dozen or more people before you would even consider a second date with someone.” Which is not to say you'll meet a lot of people you won't like at all—Elizabeth made a bunch of new friends during her online dating adventures.
First of all, it's the only way that love might find you in your living room. Second, introverts tend to be comfortable with, and good at, expressing ourselves in writing.
Third, communicating online first, before meeting, can be an easy way through all the awkward preliminary chitchat.
And a particular caveat for introverts: If you think you're starting to click with someone, don't let the emailing drag on and on, no matter how much you enjoy it.
"The danger here is that you create this online relationship that starts to get too intimate before you’ve ever met in person," Kimberly says.
Lo and behold, my now-wife liked old things and old cars, so that caught her attention. I feel like i am lying the person on the other side.