Just ask Amy Schumer, whose widely praised video skit, Last F***able Day, sent up the previously unspoken Hollywood "law" that women above the age of 40 are as desirable as drywall.But suddenly, the poignant, heartbreaking and funny (and not-so-funny) dating experiences of women in late middle age and up have exploded onto our screens, and into our reading material.And Australian columnist Kerri Sackville has just written a how-to-survive dating book for older women — inspired by her own horrific and hilarious experiences — that is currently sitting on her agent's desk.It follows numerous recent articles examining the experiences — and cultural significance — of older women, including from Australia's Jane Caro and journalists from the New York Times.Not nearly as fazed by these "dates from hell" was Melbourne-based columnist Helen Razer, who knows firsthand how perplexing — and amusing — dating as an older woman can be."I wondered if we would have sex surrounded by stuffed toys and family photos," Razer writes in The Helen 100, the book she released earlier this year, about the dating binge she undertook after her partner of 15 years up and left. It's what happened after one of Razer's dates, who had promised the columnist a night of mutually agreed upon "rough sex", sprung on her the news that his babysitting plans had fallen through.
Take it slow, maybe watch a few how-to videos in addition to the porn, find the positions and angles that work for you, etc., and work your way up to taking him all the way down. I recently met a hot older woman, age 46, who has told me she finds me equally hot. I just love their confidence and their comfort in their own skin. The problem is that I take a serious interest in feminism.Another potential suitor told her he was waiting for his terminally ill wife to die before re-entering the dating pool.Ms Daggett and the matchmaking company ended up settling out of court.I would love nothing more than to watch this kind of porn with my boyfriend, so we can add it the bedroom excitement, but I'm embarrassed to share this as a straight female. Over a candlelit dinner, pop in some porn, send him a singing telegram—however you decide to tell him, DQ, the odds that he'll react negatively are pretty low.Of course, watching someone deep throat and doing it yourself are two different things, DQ.As for objectification, MILF, the problem with objectification is when the person doing the objectifying isn't capable of simultaneously seeing the object of their affections as a three-dimensional human being with desires, fears, and agency of their own.