Resentment is a cruel, cruel reality: “…Their three hours of reading has now turned into five and the fact that you get to watch The Real Housewives of New Jersey will be a source of bitterness to your weary scholar.So be prepared for him or her to take their frustrations out on you. When they are with you, they are thinking about law school: “Dating someone in law school is like dating a crack addict looking for their next fix.If you’re lucky, 10 minutes on the phone with your sweetie is like Christmas morning (it only happens once a year).The most revered communication in law school is the occasional text or G-chat.There’s no doubt in my mind that law school is hard on relationships.In my time at law school I’ve seen at least three of my classmates go through a divorce and dozens of other relationships crash and burn.Sure, they’ll argue to the last breath and complicate the simplest concepts, but the fact is, they’re really people just like us. and every conversation seems to deteriorate into a contest.More important, they’re spouses, parents, and friends to people who aren’t lawyers. Pick someone and tell yourself, “This guy wasn’t always a lawyer.” At one time, he was a student who wanted to serve the greater good. “They’re the product of their environment,” you think, coming down on the nurture side of the nature versus nurture argument.
Thus, be emotionally ready because they will find some defamation of your character or numerous evidentiary examples of why they are clearly winning the argument.The ABA Journal asks a holiday appropriate question this week: “Are you still with your law school sweetheart? We met when we were young and had hopes and dreams.” I find the term “law school sweetheart” to be gross and vaguely unnatural. You have people who will bang you when you come back from the library wearing sweatpants, people who will save you a slice of pizza because you always forget to eat while at your clinic, and people you can sleep with after exams are over who won’t mind that you actually . Or maybe even more, as long as you ask nicely.) But really, the question presented isn’t about the sad, “I’m too busy to put on heels to get laid” settlement negotiations that mark the start of most law school relationships. We met before law school taught us to “think like lawyers,” and so we still have a method of communicating that doesn’t devolve into a battle of the forms. And who hasn’t quoted Shakespeare’s “let’s kill all the lawyers” line? Ever notice how easily you can make someone laugh by comparing lawyers to sharks, snakes, skunks, rats, roaches, and wolves?The combined debt my wife and I had when we graduated from law school… My colleague Staci Zaretsky met her fiance in law school; their debt is similarly obnoxious.