You would take the behavior for granted and you wouldn’t place much value on it.You wouldn’t be able to respect him or trust his strength because everything he was doing is based on trying to “win you over”, get your approval or please you.You’re saying, “You tick a box, you’ll do” like they’re not a person, but a means to satisfy your kink.While you’re checking your racism, think about the way you talk to other guys who aren’t just like you.So here’s the solution: If you want to get more of the little things, you should reward him for the good behavior.No matter your gender or sexual orientation, dating can seem like a minefield.Cast your net further afield We can be a very picky bunch.We whinge that we can’t find the right man, or never get a second date, but the usual reason is we’re not looking hard enough in the first place.
Be positive Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.
Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends.
While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to.
This should be a relief to you since it means that you could have a tremendous positive impact on your relationship just with one night of making your guy feel amazing instead of spending countless hours doing “little things”.
Here’s the problem: In the same way that women will do “little things” for guys and then be confused and frustrated when the guy isn’t smitten by all the little things she’s done for him (in the way a woman would be), guys think that one grand gesture will make up for months of neglecting “little things”. I’ve had plenty of times where I’ve let work and life in general consume all my time and attention and neglect my relationship.
All this liberation and equality is leading to increased bigotry among us.