Receive it lovingly, with patience, and let them tell their entire side of the story without interrupting. Recognize that, even if you didn’t mean to hurt them in the slightest, it takes real vulnerability and courage for your partner to voice frustration/resentment/discomfort with something that occurred between the two of you.Sincerely thank them for sharing their thoughts with you (it’s not an easy thing to do for most people), and follow up by apologizing for the incident, or asking what you can do or say to help them feel more complete about the event.”Whatever favour they ask of you, you aren’t contractually obligated to comply.But simply by asking the question and letting them voice their honest thoughts, you will be engaging in the dance of intentional intimacy. this is where we start to head into the emotionally uprooting territory of this exercise.While I don’t believe that you need to shine a light on absolutely everything in the dark subconscious of your mind in order to have a healthy relationship, it is good to uproot the major things that get swept under the rug.
It’s unbelievable how much even a thirty-minute, distractions free, emotional block busting session once per week conducted from the comfort of your bed can do for your entire relationship. But this exercise could be the exact thing you need to take your relationship from surviving to thriving.
Here are ten questions to ask to go deep in your intimate relationship.
Assuming that you are kicking things off right by lying down together in a distractions free room, it’s always good to ask if your partner needs anything before you start leaning into the heavier stuff.
Ask a question that will hit her in the funny bone. Last one is hard to match, but my girlfriend right now who i’ve officially tied down with, cut off all my open relationships with other chicks happened because of this question i asked her. So i opened up a bit about going through the same thing. In my opinion it’s the same with openers, you should have some defaults, and when you walk up to a girl you either improvise and you come up with something original and new (while you’re walking over to her), and if you cannot come up with anything go back to your default. But if i bring it up, and the person i’m talking to refuses to have a conversation with me about it, or has no clue what’s going on in the world, then i immediately lose interest.
We didn’t even walk into the movie theatre yet we just met up for some quick food.
You don’t have to ask them verbatim or use any of them at all but if you’re not a talker or don’t know what you can talk about or could you some additional topics, these questions might help.