"There's nothing to hide or be ashamed of, and avoiding the topic sets the tone that you're afraid of something." Moving on from the topic is equally as important as addressing it in the first place, Newton adds.
"Ask questions as if you're a tourist – we tend to be more social when on vacation," she advises.Whether you're "divorced, in between jobs, in debt, or really anything else that might make you feel weak, damaged, or insecure, don't be afraid to speak to it," says House."Don't hide, don't flaunt, don't marginalize, or make light of it.And if that's the case, it's actually good news, because you have a great big arrow pointing at what's next for you to work on emotionally!""In my personal experience, I can tell you that second marriages are often far better than first marriages," Newton says.' That practice can bring you back to the present." Newton stresses the importance of breaking this habit: "If you're stuck in comparison mode, you can't appreciate your date for who they really are – they'll just be a reflection of what worked or didn't work about your ex."If you've been out of dating for quite some time, it's okay to be rusty. "You can't expect yourself to be a dating pro from the first moment you jump back in.