On average people are looking for someone about the same as themselves.Indeed there are now many dating sites aimed at narrower demographics such as sports fans, Jewish people or those with particular medical conditions.As expected women tended to shave off the pounds, while men gave themselves a boost in height.These lies make little difference in the real world because the vast majority of fibbing would have been difficult to detect in person.To examine internet dating diversity, Dutton et al.(2009) surveyed 2,670 married couples in the UK, Australia and Spain.
When this data was compared with their profiles, it showed that nine out of ten had lied on at least one of the attributes measured, but the lies were only small ones.
Most people want to meet up eventually so they know big lies are going to be caught. Even without Photoshop to iron out the wrinkles, camera angles and lighting can easily change perceived attractiveness.
People instinctively understand this when choosing their profile photo so Toma and Hancock (2010) took photographs of internet daters, then judges compared these to the real profile photos.
Most guys are simply not serious, there for sex, or simply a bad person. Luckily, there are usually a ratio of 3:1 men to women, so there’s more good quality men than good quality women (despite the abundance of horrible men). And on plenty of fish, plenty of fishes (dates) are usually in larger cities.
Here’s what it really comes down to, are you willing to travel? So if you are in a small town, think about the nearest closest city, and plan a date with someone. When you go out in public to approach a stranger, you first may come off needy, then you have no idea if that person is single, or even willing and ready to date someone.
When Fiore and Donath (2005) examined data from 65,000 online daters, they found that people were choosing based on similarity to themselves.