One of the things that allows people with some of these red flags to ‘prosper’ and to continue as normal is acceptance of the behaviour as is, with rarely any questions asked.
If you have someone with any of the above, raise the issue with them, or if it’s serious enough, bail out and don’t look back.
I am always wary of people who don’t have a good thing to say about anyone and begrudge people their success and revel in their failures.
Are they incapable of doing much for themselves because they haven’t grown up? Unfortunately things happen in life and it can be difficult getting over things and dealing with them.Learn to ask the hard questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone, before opinions are solidly formed.Most of us seem to do much better when we have no real expectations of someone, because we hardly know who they are and are not yet trying to impress them.This is someone who is incapable of sharing anything of themselves emotionally because they are all about limiting their exposure to vulnerability and doing things on their terms, making them rather self-absorbed.If they’re emotionally unavailable, they cannot be truly intimate which means that they cannot commit, which means your relationship is going to halt, or go in fits and starts, and ultimately it’s not really going to go anywhere because it will always have a cap on it.Often ‘red flags’ are a character trait, for example aggression, and at other times it’s a fundamental core difference in values, indicating something that’s extremely important to you that you really shouldn’t and cannot ignore.