Day-to-day duties for a solo parent are no different than they are for a married one: coping with sleeplessness, finding child care, paying bills. Here are some of the biggest worries of new single moms, and a few words of wisdom.
get past the fear."You can survive this, or you can lie down and die," is what Christina Ann Zola, of Washington, D.
"And she was right."There are single moms who get reliable, substantial child-support payments from the baby's father.
But if reading that sentence makes you laugh ruefully, you're probably one of the majority of women who have become the breadwinner."My son counts on me and only me," Zola says.
There will be days when working -- you have no choice! Zola, who sometimes works 60-hour weeks, fights frustration by reminding herself what a good model she is for her son. She works full-time at a healthcare organization while her 2-year-old stays with Grandpa.
"The best thing I can do for my daughter is show her how to be a strong, resourceful individual," Grider says.
When my daughter, Mae, was 7 months old, her father and I split up.
But the real boon was when a mom forwarded Zola's resume to an architectural firm, which hired her for her current job. Amy Anderson, of Seattle, says that when she split with the father of her daughter, Hailey, soon after Hailey's first birthday, she had to borrow money from her family to stay afloat.
"Surround yourself whenever possible with emotionally generous and secure people who boost your confidence," Klungness says.
How to keep your head high if people are judgmental?
Be prepared for any number of uncomfortable situations, from disapproving grandparents to gossiping coworkers.
You may grow distant from some friends while drawing closer to others.
Divorce and birth out of wedlock don't have the stigma that they did in earlier eras.