As a side dish of this dating casserole, add football practice and Parent/Teacher conferences. We approach this game/adventure from almost every imaginable angle. I will admit it; I understand the thought of dating someone with three children can be overwhelming.
(Imagine: Pull out a red cape and put the S on my chest; que superhero theme music). We yearn to find the perfect roadmap that will lead us to our happily ever after, whether imagined or not. A potential suitor telling me he has three children will get a side eye from me as well and a note of reluctance.
Dating is a juggling act, but it’s doable (so do it! One night, I’m getting wined and dined, like any other single lady.
) It took me a good four years to start dating again, and I don’t take it lightly when it comes to a guy meeting my son. The next, I’m back at home with the love of my life, simultaneously searching for a Lego man’s microscopic hand, cooking dinner and singing the ABC’s — and okay, shooting my date a text.
Dear Diary, I pray that my next entry does not reek of the undertones of desperation.
Being divorced and a single mother of three at the ripe age of thirty-two was never one of my life goals.
Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like dating isn’t about chemistry anymore. I give anyone consent to cast judgment my way if it so pleases you at this point. I don’t implement the “We will cross that bridge when we get there” mentality when it comes to love. Do I want to be in my English Language Learner teacher mode all the time while trying to have a conversation of a simplistic nature with someone I have amazing chemistry with? I won’t lie, being single as an expatriate can put you in a great place if you play your cards right.
Men have become best selling authors by writing books and articles like Steve Harvey’s, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man“. Can you afford to support an additional four humans if this pans out to be something? The thought of 4 Deep turning into 8 Deep overnight seriously frightens me to my soul.When my son asks about his father, I answer truthfully, quickly and then change the subject (advice I gained from a child psychologist).I never say anything negative and know this conversation will evolve as my son grows older and more curious. And rest assured that it’s normal for you to feel sad, anxious, guilty or even enraged after having this tricky conversation. You definitely need help It’s a single mom’s instinct to feel like she needs to do it all, but that's not realistic or rational.I actually like compartmentalizing my lives as a mom and as a dating woman.It’s nice to occasionally get away, have a drink and recharge my batteries.Now that I stand two years strong in the midst of both, I must embrace it with open arms while strategically making my best attempt at conquering the dating game. However, dating as a black woman brings about an entirely new challenge. Imagine the ingredients of that casserole being a black woman, three children, and living in a foreign country.